Silence is the most dominant shout

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I am not a great listener and probably, that is the reason I am the best person to write about the power of silence. Silence can sometimes be considered as an inability to speak, a sign of weakness. However, silence doesn’t have to mean that effective communication is not taking place. In fact, silence can be a powerful negotiation tool. Knowing when to stop talking and listen is just as important as knowing what to say. This comes more naturally to some of us than to others but it’s a skill that can be worked upon and sharpened.

While in conversation allowing your counterpart to do the active talking and listening, you will end up gaining their trust and confidence in you. Your silence may even encourage the other side to reveal more than they intended. The value of quietness is significantly belittled in current society. In addition to the fact that we can’t really cherish silence, we likewise give our absolute best to keep away from it.

  • The extraordinary instructor inside.

Silence is not our enemy. It helps us to become more relaxed as you don’t have to filter and process unlimited information. The ground-breaking impact of quietness can assist us with better understanding what the instructor inside us needs to say. The only thing that is in any way important is that quietness gets us closer with a critical wellspring of clearness and peacefulness.

  • Better Concentration.

Silence can assist us with calming down and to enter a condition of mental clearness. An impressive reaction to this expanded clearness lies in huge enhancements of your concentration. In turn, your capacity to concentrate on a given assignment will increase massively. Because of expanded concentration levels, you will end up being significantly progressively beneficial at all that you do.

  • Least bothered about insignificant things in life.

Most of us are surrounded by ‘n’ number of unimportant engagements in our life. These unimportant things are insignificant.However, many of us place great emphasis upon them. We are not clear with our priorities, so we fall prey to worrying about things that are least important. Instead of being irritated or offended by minor occurrences, silence can give you the necessary mental strength to treat these things as they are.

  • Silence allows better delivery and understanding.

Silence in the form of appropriate pauses, allows your audience to absorb information. An audience responds in real time and hence, you should give a pause whenever you say something important in your conversation. It helps them to absorb and retain. A concise silence enables your audience to ponder over your basic message in their brains and thus helps to connect better.

  • Unpredictable when you speak less.

The more you talk, the more your words and information can be utilised against you later on. Talking less will influence other individuals to

reveal increasingly about themselves. When you listen, you find out more and you can utilize that information later. The less you say, more significant and baffling you show up. By saying less and to the point you create an impression of meaning and power.

Leaders are often judged by what they say or do but sometimes silence is their most effective leadership tool.

Silence can enrich communications, if used positively. It can even misfire sometimes if inappropriately pitched in. Silent spaces should be used to support communication and not undermine it.

Cheers!

Subrat Saurabh

How to be a good storyteller

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Words are a powerful medium to express. Though written words are a beauty in itself but when given a voice they become more powerful. The emotions and characters come to life when stories get a voice.

Have you ever tried to be a storyteller in a get together with your family or friends or while travelling in a train with strangers?  Being able to tell an entertaining story is a terrific way to utilise time and to create a powerful impact on your audience. Even if you have attempted to be a storyteller, it is not necessary that you end up telling an impressive story. You may have a fantastic story to tell but it seems that for most of us, the art of telling a story seems to be just beyond our capacity.

Storytelling associates us and gets us in contact with our audience which may be more profound than ourselves. It’s nothing unexpected that new talents are utilising narrating, to convey their very own vision for quite a long time and also to build a brand image out of it.

However, one of the important questions is what makes a delightful story? And how can we become good storytellers? And if we are not a good story teller then how can we become one.

Storytelling is not only about creating images for a new talent or branding of a new product in the market so that it should reach the target audience. Storytelling is also important to writers and content creators of all kinds, communicating fiction and nonfiction stories.

However, storytelling is something which we are altogether inclined towards to some extent. Everybody has a fantasy of publishing their own book, and everybody has stories which are fantastic and unique in their own way, that characterizes their lives. Believe it or not but it’s true, everyone has a story.

One must consider the following points while venturing into the art of storytelling:

·         Identify your audience:

We must identify the appropriate audience for whom we have created the story. This is important in light of the fact that it will decide the impact of your story. It’s no point providing water to the person who is not thirsty as he won’t realise it’s worth. In the same way, if you identify the wrong audience your storytelling would be a futile effort. If you identify your audience well, then it will be much easier to reach out to them with your stories and messages.

·         Identify the context and elaborate:

Being a storyteller, we are aware about the story, we know where our story is heading towards and how it’s going to end. It’s very important for us to set the context and elaborate more about the characters, its physical appearance, habits etc. Strong characterisation always helps to attract the interest of the audience.

·         Don’t lose the grip:

If you are not good at editing and filtering your thoughts real time, in your mind then it’s obvious that you will get into unwanted details which are not relevant to the story. Such mistakes will distract your audience and you will end up losing the grip of your audience.

·         Avoid adding unnecessary details while narrating real incidents:

The more frequently we narrate the same story, the little addition we will in general include. If we add unnecessary add up, those accounts float further and further far from the events that really occurred. Inevitably, you may finish up depicting something that never happened by any means.

·         Notice your audience:

Make sure to monitor your audience (by making eye contacts, if they are in front of you) and stay connected with them (by seeking feedback, if they are away). Keep the session interactive, if you are in front of an audience. If you have a sad story to narrate, be sure that you don’t go for so long that you’re putting stress on the audience. Take your audience on an emotional journey. Make them feel your story.

·         Story should have unpredictable ending:

If you want your readers or listener to spend some quality time on your story then you better come up with a most unpredictable ending, does not matter if it’s a little weird. A Story is good because it has a great ending not because it has an unexpected beginning. Give enough space to your audience to build an ending in their minds but make sure that your ending is different than what they can think of.

Cheers!

Subrat Saurabh

5 Ways to deal with failure

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If Thomas Edison would have stopped after failing for 10th attempts, then he would have never invented an electric bulb in his 10,000th attempt.

Sometimes things go as per the plan or even better than the expected but on some days, they don’t.  You commit an error, have difficulty or you essentially fall flat. It’s unpleasant but you cannot avoid it unless you avoid doing anything at all.

Don’t worry. It happens to all of us. We experience disappointment to different degrees. Some of us manage it well and some just give up.  Things can turn around quickly. Things will improve however before they do, you should figure out how to manage disappointment. Here are a few tips.

  1. Just accept the failure.

When you’ve quite recently fizzled, it will undoubtedly sting at times, a bit. In some cases, a great deal. That is OK.

Try not to attempt to push it away, by diverting yourself or by endeavoring to push the duty onto whatever is left of the world.

You must acknowledge that disappointments happen to everybody. Think about this experience as something, where you can gain from it. The initial step on managing disappointment is accepting that it occurred. Acceptance of failure is the best way to deal with it.

2. Stop thinking about the failure

Never let the rejection engulf you. If you allow failure to overpower you, you will always think that you can never make it next time. Stop thinking about failure and don’t let this stop you from succeeding in your next endeavor. Remember, you are not a failure just because you had a setback.

Keep reminding yourself, “Just because you failed today, does not mean that you will fail again”. Keep yourself engaged in your hobbies to refresh yourself and bounce back.

3. Give your disappointment a chance to get out. 

It’s obvious to get disappointed over something you buckled down for, yet could not accomplish it.

So proceed, let it out. Communicate with your friends about it. Take the necessary steps to dispose of the disappointment that keeps bubbling up in your mind.

Give your exhausted brain a break and engage in something that can pep-up your mind. Watch a favorite comedy show or go out with friends or well-wishers. You need to loosen up your mind to cope up with the pressure and try to be happy.

4. Give yourself 24 hours to overcome

It’s alright to feel tragic or grieve about the failure. However, just allow yourself 24 hours to adjust, accommodate and accept it. 24 hours ought to be sufficient time to ponder over the mistakes and move ahead from that point onward. Push ahead, begin anticipating what to do straightaway, what your next activities ought to be and what you should deal with to make progress.

5. Plan your next moves

Try not to get stuck and get neck deep into stagnancy rather endeavor to make your next steps effective.

You’ve already learnt from your failure. It’s high time to buckle up and work smart to make the progress. Write down your next goals and go for it to achieve.

No Failure is strong enough to pin you down to the floor unless you refuse to get up. So accept it as a part of life, deal with it, learn from it, make efforts to overcome and success would be knocking at your door.

“Stay Focussed and Be Successful”

Be a positive guiding light, to relish illuminating reflections

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“I am elated to see the posts of so many parents whose kids have done well in their board exams. Let us acknowledge that it’s not only the effort of kids but also their parents & teachers. Kudos to them for their support and guidance during this tough time.  

Most of us are locked within our premises for the last few months with limited supply of resources and going through a stressful time. We were never prepared for this and hence, never did a drill to handle a pandemic situation. Teachers and parents were going an extra mile to guide and support their kids throughout. Let the kids also understand and appreciate the pain and effort that you have put in and it definitely calls for a celebration. 

I request all the parents to allow their kids to do whatever they want to do in their life. Don’t force them to opt a career of your choice. Let them choose what they want to do. There are numerous options available and they can tap the appropriate opportunity to explore and flourish anywhere. Each kid is a fighter and has a special talent. Let them decide their future and follow their dreams and passions. Let them become an engineer, singer, doctor, artist, comedian, entrepreneur or whatever they want to be. Encourage your kids to channelize their positive energies to achieve their dreams, in what that is for the greater cause. Please don’t let them become too self-absorbed and self-obsessed in their own dreams, work on their character building, vision creation and help them to guide their positive energies in the right direction. Encourage them to root in what’s good and right, and their dreams will surely get wings.

Encourage them to pursue dreams that sharpen and accentuate their natural gifts and talents. Be the guiding light that illuminates their path to self-belief and success. Trust me they will do much better than your expectations. Please get to know your kids and encourage them to follow their dreams with a focused eye. Don’t let the world miss out on all they have to offer.”

“Be a positive guiding light, to relish illuminating reflections”

Cheers!

Subrat Saurabh